LIFE IS MENTAL

It may be safe to say that life is nearly 100 percent mental. Think about it. Life is not just our stimuli. It is what we mentally associate with that stimuli. That mental association is just as real as the experience itself since we are really making that association. As long as we are alive or conscious we make these mental associations.

TO BE OR NOT TO BE (A NICE GUY)

"Nice guys finish last," the old saying goes. Is it true? Well, it certainly has its pros and cons. Let's start with the pros:

You're likable and are generally well-liked. People can't help but to like you.

You're kind to and considerate of others. You're the one others can count on.

You have good karma. The universe cannot be fooled. No good action goes unrewarded. No malicious action goes unpunished.

You're a woman's guy friend.
You're a comforting presence, especially for women.

You have a drama-less life or at least one with less drama. Domestic violence, public and private shouting matches and jail time are not for you.

Now, we have the cons:

You're so eager to please and be liked, often to your detriment. So, you're subservient toward others, allow disrespect and martyr yourself. You keep taking crap. So, others keep it coming.

You receive and tolerate more disrespect than the edgier guys. Maybe you don't command respect, but you don't demand it either.

You tolerate and excuse that disrespect, often even blaming yourself for it. You were respectful and in turn were disrespected, but somehow it's your fault. You think it's always your fault because you undervalue yourself.

You're a woman's guy friend, but nothing more.

You're comforting but not sexy.

You may often be left on the sidelines watching the fun.That includes seeing the edgier guys with hot (and horny) women. Your life may not be a slow-motion train wreck, but it might not be much fun either. Such is the life of many a too-nice guy.


You may have less sexual encounters. Let's face it. A Simon Cowell would get laid sooner than a Mister Rogers (pictured above).


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Nothing's wrong with being a "nice guy." The problem is repeatedly reminding yourself you're one. This encourages victim thinking when you are mistreated, asking "Why?" and forgetting that some people are just mean. So, maybe firming up and holding your ground against such people means at least occasionally forgetting that you're a nice guy.

TARGETED THINKING: SELF-ANALYZE AS YOU GO

Every thought should be for a desired goal even if that goal is nothing more than relaxation. The constant self-examination this requires prevents malice, affectation, pretension, self-deception and negative thinking. It allows you to keep your thinking in check, to cast out negative thinking before it takes root, and saves you much soul-searching later. It is easier to self-analyze as you go. If every thought has a positive target you will always have a plan and since thoughts guide behavior your actions and behavior will always be constructive. You can't help but to be positive, can't help but to be happy.

EVERY THOUGHT IS CREATIVE

Thoughts are energy and energy creates. We draw to us what we think, focus on. Every thought creates in some way whether it be your financial status, relationships, experiences, other tangibles, behavior, persona or other thoughts. I used to believe that thoughts didn't matter if they weren't somehow expressed or acted on. How wrong I was. At the least a thought, especially a habitual one, will form your persona or generate like thoughts or those of similar frequency. Then those other thoughts may manifest an experience or situation in your life. Even if others cannot read your mind they can read your persona, and your persona affects how they treat you. So, ultimately, no thought is unexpressed. You may fool other people, but you cannot fool the universe. It sees and hears your every thought and responds accordingly.

SOME PEOPLE HAVE ALL THE LUCK

Some people have all the luck. It sure seems that way, doesn't it? Actually, people who seem to have good luck, to always land on their feet, attract that luck. They truly believe that good will come to them, and so it does. We make our luck with our attitudes and beliefs. Many live in darkness and shun the light. So, darkness befalls them. Others walk in the light and shun the darkness. These are the ones with "good luck."

GOOD TIMES, BAD TIMES

Bad times serve a purpose besides helping us to better appreciate the good times. They draw us closer to The Spirit. With only good times, desirable experiences, we might never seek The Spirit. We might think we don't need The Spirit. So, if bad times, bad experiences, make us dig for The Spirit, then they're actually blessing in disguise. For true everlasting peace can come only from The Spirit.